SeduceHot Women

Communication is, without a doubt, the absolutely most important part about picking up women! If you cannot communicate with them, you can't get anywhere. You can look amazing, smell great and have money coming out of your ears, but if you can’t communicate, you won't be getting anywhere with the ladies very fast. If you aren’t very good at talking to women (or if you are nervous around gorgeous women), don’t worry; we are going to tell you exactly what to do. In order to become good at communicating with women, you might need to dedicate a lot of time and patience. Even I took up public speaking classes to help me get over a fear of speaking with strangers I had never met before. With time, effort and patience, you will eventually be able to walk up to any girl (no matter how beautiful she is) and talk away as if you've known her for ages.

Let’s begin with how to become good at communication. Don’t even try to pick up women without getting this down. If you can't talk to the woman you are trying to pick up, how will you be able to get anywhere with her? The best and easiest thing to do if you can't communicate with women is to start communicating with men. Some of you have problems talking to your co-workers, doctors and neighbours. Start with people you know; it doesn’t matter what gender they are at this point, as long as you are talking. Once you are comfortable talking to people that are closer to you, start talking to random strangers. Take the bus to work instead of driving your car. See how many conversations you can start and remember them. Once you are finished the conversation, take some time to relax, and analyze what was just said and exactly how the conversation began. Ask yourself a few questions that will help you improve your communication skills such as:

-How did you start the conversation? -Did the person seem comfortable around you when you first initiated the conversation? -Did you manage to keep the conversation going? -Was there actually a conversation, or was it you asking questions the entire time to try to keep it going? -Was there any uncomfortable moments of silence? -Was there a conclusion to the conversation, or did it just stop with both of you not saying anything?

If you ask yourself these questions, and really think back on the conversation you just had, you will be amazed as to how much you can learn and how easily you can improve.

If you are having troubles figuring out what to do or say to initiate a conversation, that should be the least of your worries. When we get more into detail on how to pick up women, you will see that conversation starters don’t have to make sense at all; it’s what is said when you get your reply. But for now, try simple starters. It is said that most conversation starters are about the weather. You can never go wrong with:

-Wow! It’s nice out today! -Doesn’t it seem so much colder today then yesterday? -Hmmmm...I wonder how the weather will be this afternoon? (Remember that these are only to start a general conversation with random people.)

When starting random conversations for practice, it is usually better to use a more open-ended question or statement; something that will generate a reply, and start a conversation. Give yourself as much time as you need to get comfortable with talking to strangers and getting conversations going. Once you feel confident enough, start having conversations with women. If you are still too uncomfortable approaching women you would want to pick up, talk to women around your age that you don’t want to pick up. You will see for yourself that once you improve your communication skills, the girls you aren’t trying to pick up will start trying to pick you up! Now to get to what all that practice was for; communicating with that gorgeous girl you want to pick up!

We will explain to you later on exactly what to do and say in order to pick up women, but for now, take note of the important parts of communication you will need to focus on when talking to women. Here is a list of things you need to do and remember to effectively communicate with that beautiful lady:

1) Be confident! There is nothing women like more than a confident man, and you must show them you are confident in your voice.

2) Talk slow! The last thing you want is for the woman to say "what?", "huh?" or "what did you say?" Talking fast can also occur because you are babbling. You want your voice to have a steady pace. If you aren’t talking too fast, you have more time to concentrate on what you are saying. You are better understood this way, and you will actually sound sexier. Put your favorite James Bond movie in and see how fast he talks. Taking your time will improve your verbal communication skills overall.

3) Be clear! Try not to slur and try to be as well understood as possible. This is especially important when you are in a loud environment like a club. If she can't hear you, the conversation won't be going anywhere. A good way to practice articulation is to put a pencil in your mouth and slightly bite on it with your back teeth and talk.

4) Say it, don’t spray it! I think this statement is pretty selfexplanatory, as most women I know don’t carry an umbrella with them everywhere they go! You could be as sexy as humanly possible and say all the right things, but if you are showering her with saliva, she’ll be running away in no time.

5) Don’t talk too loud, but don’t be too soft! This can be tricky, but it is quite important! If you want to have a good conversation with a woman, you want her to be able to hear you loud and clear, but you don’t want to be too loud as it can be very irritating. This doesn’t only go for in person, but on the phone as well.

6) Ask open-ended questions! Open-ended questions are questions that require more of an answer than a "Yes" or a "No". Instead of asking, "do you like movies?", you should be asking, "what type of movies do you enjoy?" If you keep asking her open-ended questions, it will be much easier for you to get her to open up and keep the conversation going. Many good discussions can occur when asking open-ended questions.

7) Don’t babble! This is HUGE! Babbling is the worse thing you can do, especially if you babble about yourself! Babbling is a sign of nervousness and you want to show confidence. Also, people are often barely heard, misunderstood and are just plain annoying when they babble. Ever have anyone just go on and on, and you have no idea what they are saying? Nobody likes that, so it’s simple...DON’T DO IT!

8) Don’t go on about yourself! Yes, it’s true, women have that perfect man in their heads and you want to be him. But the way to do that is NOT by telling her you are. Never, ever mention how much money you make, what car you drive, or how much you paid for your watch. In fact, you do exactly the opposite! If it comes up in conversation, be subtle! Good examples of this would be:

- Wow, I really like your watch! In this case, you don’t want to do the typical mistake and say, "yeah, I bought it at the jewellery store! It cost me $300!" Instead, you want to use something along the lines of, "yeah, it’s an ok watch." This shows that it’s nothing to you (without saying it). You can even say something like, "well, I saw it at the store and really liked it, so I got it!" This would show her that you know what you like and when you want something, you get it! - What kind of car do you drive? Now, the typical mistake with this one is either lying or bragging. If you own an old car, then tell her what you own. Just say it with a lot of confidence, as if you are proud of it!: "I drive an old Ford Tempo! I’ve had it for 6 years and I’m going to drive that baby as long as I can!" This would show that although you may have an old car, you are proud of it, and that you drive it out of choice. If you do own a really nice car, don’t brag. Instead, be subtle again. Use replies like, "well, I only drive a Corvette I bought last summer. It gets me from A to B and that’s all that really matters right?" Saying this will show her that although you own a nice car, you can do so without bragging. You can own a nice car and be as broke as can be, but she will think you are rolling in the money if you say a statement like that!

Subtlety is the secret. Don’t ever say anything direct like, "I make $xxxxxx," even when asked. Never talk about something until it’s brought up and when it is, be very indirect. You are telling them the truth, but they are making up visions and ideas of you in their heads that can be far from the truth. If ever asked how much you make, simply say, "enough." Or, make a joke out of it like, "well, I’m sure not living in a cardboard box! Or am I?" That draws attention away from the question and makes it seem like you are well off.


These rules are pretty easy to follow, and are all key to good communication with women. One thing that we are frequently asked is, "is it ok to lie?" and "when is it ok to lie?" Well, you have to be careful with your lies. It’s not a bad thing to lie, but you are sure to fail if you get caught up in a lie. If you told a woman you own a house or live in an apartment and you live in your parent's basement, how are you supposed to take her home? If you are looking for someone to possibly have a relationship, and you lie and eventually get caught, you won't be getting anywhere. An example of a lie gone bad would be when she asks you, "what kind of car do you drive?" If you didn’t listen to us and answered you have a BMW, when all you have is a rust bucket, what will you explain to her when she asks you to take her back to her place for some serious sex? When lying, choose your lies well. If you are only looking for a one night stand, it doesn’t matter as much. If you tell her you have a nice car and you don’t, you could always tell her that you left it at home and took a cab (this works especially well if you’re having a few drinks). When she asks you to take her to your place for all that incredible sex, but you live in an apartment when you told her you had a house, tell her your brother is staying over because he broke up with his girlfriend and you are helping him until he gets back on his feet. Lying isn’t always suggested, but depending on the target, it is sometimes required (like the incredibly beautiful women that are only after money). Pick your lies very carefully.

Learning to communicate verbally is very important and is definitely required to be successful in the art of seduction. Just remember the key elements, and practice until you have it right.